TITS AND SASS BLOG
I first found the blog "Tits & Sass" in 2007. I had been sucked into helping Melissa Farley do a report (so she claimed at the time) for the State Dept., and a related press conference, which was held in September of 2007. You can read about that report, and conference, at www.hightechmadam.com
As I've said before, after the room was filled with reporters, I had been hooked up to the microphone, and we were about to go on stage, Melissa pulled me over to the side. She asked me if I would make two statements from the podium. The first was that "all prostitution was rape". The second was that all sex workers were in some fashion a "victim". Third, that all forms of sex work needed to be "abolished" or "outlawed. I explained to her not only did I not personally agree with these claims, but that if I were to do so I'd lose all my credibility for speaking my personal truth. Anyone who knows me know I speak the truth as to what I know to the best of my ability.
If I am going to lie for money - I'll go back to sex work and I'd be filthy rich as I was when I got arrested in 1984. Speaking as the person who launched the first 900 phone line application for phone sex in Los Angeles in the early 1980's - I was making $30,000 a week all legal from just that phone sex operation. So I know well not only the illegal side of the sex industry, but also the legal operations as well. I told Melissa "no". I was there to release the report I'd helped her to write and I was standing behind that and that alone I told her.
After this conference, my phone rang off the hook from people who were contributors and subscribers to the "Tits and Sass" blog. They told me to "turn on the news". This is when I saw Melissa had taken the reporters into the hallway and put words in my mouth - assigning me to her "abolish prostitution" comments at this press conference. To say I was angry was an understatement.
But then my phone went dead and my power went off. I went outside to check the lines, and discovered my car had been trashed, and my lines had not only been disconnected, but cut. My daughter, who looked identical to me from a distance at the time, told me she'd go across the street to a payphone to call for help. As she crossed the street, she was mowed over by a woman who owned an ADT office by there, who was also close friends with Metro police. She had her back broken in three places from being run over this way in broad daylight with nothing obstructing the drivers' view to see she was clearly in the crossing walk. The cop on the scene refused to take photos, a witness statement from the many witnesses she was mowed over and knocked unconscious, but also to do a breathalyzer test on the driver I demanded. I could think of nothing but she couldn't have been sober to hit her like this with nothing obstructing her view. The cop then issued my daughter a ticket for jaywalking while she was getting her x-rays and split before speaking to me, or complying with my requests.
Only one person by the way knew where I lived at that time - Melissa Farley. While Lance Gilman, owner of the Mustang Ranch, is on the board of Nevada Power, and also the Nevada Board of Economic Development, of which my insurance, power, cable, phone, internet and TV companies were all held by meaning he could have accessed my account information. So anyone else who could have accessed my accounts for things in the state could have found out where I lived also. My address was not on my drivers license.
Shortly after this, I received a call from a local church. They asked me if I "got the check". I said "what check?" Then I was told they'd given Melissa a check for $80,000 they had meant for my work she had said she'd process through her nonprofit status. I got a few other calls adding up to $180,000 in donations people had said she'd collected from people thinking it was going to me to be a part of NCAST - the nonprofit she had been claiming at this press conference she was launching. When I asked about this money at first she acknowledged it. She said "once we reach $300,000 I'll be hiring you to provide direct services and your salary will be $120,000". When I realized someone had canceled my car insurance, and I had no outreach car, I told her I needed an advance to get a car. I especially needed one now my daughter had a broken back and was unable to walk or get on the bus. She then said "money - what money"?
That's when I wrote in to the "Tits and Sass" blog to alert the men and women in this industry what went down. Word spread. Because she then couldn't find a real sex worker to speak for her after that - she created the fake "Stella Marr" who was supposedly leading "Survivors Connect". Norma Jean Almodovar helped us to uncover evidence Stella was a "catfish" and expose her for this.
Word spread about Melissa and no one from the sex industry would help her with her research. Everyone rallied together to shut her and her crones out. Clearly this meant they had to be destroyed because it meant we had a system to relay the truth to each other and rally together against outsiders.
So too every other site owned by anyone in competition with the legal brothels. The Erotic Review, Craigslist, Backpage, Myredbook, Rentboy - along with Tits and Sass - needed to be taken over in order to restrict the free flow of information. Which we have seen a complete take down of these other sites, and the owners, since. I have lost communications with all of these site owners after their arrest who we would share information as to who they thought might be needing help to leave the industry, or escape a pimp. We never reported any of this to law enforcement either.
What's the difference between members of Sex Workers Anonymous and that of active sex workers?
Not a damn thing.
Anyone in this business knows most of us swear we're "quitting for life" only to return a year, two years, three years, or even 20 years down the road. Once we're in that business - we're branded for life. A judge recently was found dead in Henderson and what did the news say? "Stripper who became Judge found dead". http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/nevada-judge-found-dead-tributes-stripper-article-1.2565800 It follows us even in death. In Alcoholics Anonymous they call it "turning from a cucumber into a pickle". Once you become a "pickle" you can't go back. Spouses, lovers, landlords, employers - ALL contain people who view an ex-sex worker as no different than an active sex worker.
For all I know - I even could go back into the sex industry. I could go and manage a strip club or a massage parlor. I could go write a script for a porn. I could go open up a webcam studio. So what's the difference between me and anyone else in the sex industry? Really nothing other than I "have the desire not to return to sex work". That's it.
I carry the same stigmas, the same scars, the same problems and issues as anyone else who is right now this minute turning a trick, making a porn, talking some guy off on the phone. Any REAL sex worker knows this.
Ones on our side anyway.
When I started finding myself, and Sex Workers Anonymous, as a group, under attack in 2015 by women like Maxine Doogan, Domina Elle, Meg Munoz, and other women connected to SWOP - I had turned to the owners of the Tits and Sass blog asking them "what's going on?"
For the first time - I heard silence.
Then I found this -
Remember - I'm an ex-sex worker. I'm no different than any other sex worker who might turn around tomorrow and say "I want to quit".
Now let me ask you - if you turn around and become like me, you decide to leave the sex industry, and you join our program or not, but you also become an "ex-sex worker" - what does our removal of our posts mean? The Amish call it "shunning".
Melissa Farley asked me to say "all prostitution was rape". I told her "no" that some of sex work is a business like any other business. A business within which some people are forced into that business for one as in trafficking victims. Some of the customers are harmed by disreputable unethical providers such as johns who get "rolled" or catch a disease. So our business is like the tobacco industry or alcohol. We have some customers who are harmed by the products. Some people are forced to produce the products. There are some laws against the products like how anyone under 18 can't smoke or under 21 can't drink.
So let me ask you - if this blog was a blog about anorexia, and if all reference to programs like Overeaters Anonymous, or treatment centers was removed, then it no longer is a blog about anorexia - but what instead? A site to promote anorexica where anyone who doesn't share in the behavior is then excluded.
Now does this mean the site is truly about free expression from ALL anorexics on the subject - or has it become instead about the promotion of the behavior only? What does it then tell it's readers will happen to them if they stop the behavior? They'll be shunned meaning the site is then PUSHING anorexia on those who will then start thinking "gee if I quit sticking my finger down my throat then I'm going to be shunned also so I got to think twice about this".
That is no longer a blog by anorexics about anorexia to share views on the subject - but instead it becomes propaganda and control. Because if they're selling you something - then what is it they're trying to get you to buy? So again is this about the sharing of information and views - or about creating a system of control?
You tell me. Because I've never ever made one post on their site trying to convince anyone to quit the sex industry. All I've ever posted is information on what's going on with us on this end of the world - like what was happening with Melissa Farley at that press conference.
Which I could show you if not that all those warnings were removed.
As I've said before, after the room was filled with reporters, I had been hooked up to the microphone, and we were about to go on stage, Melissa pulled me over to the side. She asked me if I would make two statements from the podium. The first was that "all prostitution was rape". The second was that all sex workers were in some fashion a "victim". Third, that all forms of sex work needed to be "abolished" or "outlawed. I explained to her not only did I not personally agree with these claims, but that if I were to do so I'd lose all my credibility for speaking my personal truth. Anyone who knows me know I speak the truth as to what I know to the best of my ability.
If I am going to lie for money - I'll go back to sex work and I'd be filthy rich as I was when I got arrested in 1984. Speaking as the person who launched the first 900 phone line application for phone sex in Los Angeles in the early 1980's - I was making $30,000 a week all legal from just that phone sex operation. So I know well not only the illegal side of the sex industry, but also the legal operations as well. I told Melissa "no". I was there to release the report I'd helped her to write and I was standing behind that and that alone I told her.
After this conference, my phone rang off the hook from people who were contributors and subscribers to the "Tits and Sass" blog. They told me to "turn on the news". This is when I saw Melissa had taken the reporters into the hallway and put words in my mouth - assigning me to her "abolish prostitution" comments at this press conference. To say I was angry was an understatement.
But then my phone went dead and my power went off. I went outside to check the lines, and discovered my car had been trashed, and my lines had not only been disconnected, but cut. My daughter, who looked identical to me from a distance at the time, told me she'd go across the street to a payphone to call for help. As she crossed the street, she was mowed over by a woman who owned an ADT office by there, who was also close friends with Metro police. She had her back broken in three places from being run over this way in broad daylight with nothing obstructing the drivers' view to see she was clearly in the crossing walk. The cop on the scene refused to take photos, a witness statement from the many witnesses she was mowed over and knocked unconscious, but also to do a breathalyzer test on the driver I demanded. I could think of nothing but she couldn't have been sober to hit her like this with nothing obstructing her view. The cop then issued my daughter a ticket for jaywalking while she was getting her x-rays and split before speaking to me, or complying with my requests.
Only one person by the way knew where I lived at that time - Melissa Farley. While Lance Gilman, owner of the Mustang Ranch, is on the board of Nevada Power, and also the Nevada Board of Economic Development, of which my insurance, power, cable, phone, internet and TV companies were all held by meaning he could have accessed my account information. So anyone else who could have accessed my accounts for things in the state could have found out where I lived also. My address was not on my drivers license.
Shortly after this, I received a call from a local church. They asked me if I "got the check". I said "what check?" Then I was told they'd given Melissa a check for $80,000 they had meant for my work she had said she'd process through her nonprofit status. I got a few other calls adding up to $180,000 in donations people had said she'd collected from people thinking it was going to me to be a part of NCAST - the nonprofit she had been claiming at this press conference she was launching. When I asked about this money at first she acknowledged it. She said "once we reach $300,000 I'll be hiring you to provide direct services and your salary will be $120,000". When I realized someone had canceled my car insurance, and I had no outreach car, I told her I needed an advance to get a car. I especially needed one now my daughter had a broken back and was unable to walk or get on the bus. She then said "money - what money"?
That's when I wrote in to the "Tits and Sass" blog to alert the men and women in this industry what went down. Word spread. Because she then couldn't find a real sex worker to speak for her after that - she created the fake "Stella Marr" who was supposedly leading "Survivors Connect". Norma Jean Almodovar helped us to uncover evidence Stella was a "catfish" and expose her for this.
Word spread about Melissa and no one from the sex industry would help her with her research. Everyone rallied together to shut her and her crones out. Clearly this meant they had to be destroyed because it meant we had a system to relay the truth to each other and rally together against outsiders.
So too every other site owned by anyone in competition with the legal brothels. The Erotic Review, Craigslist, Backpage, Myredbook, Rentboy - along with Tits and Sass - needed to be taken over in order to restrict the free flow of information. Which we have seen a complete take down of these other sites, and the owners, since. I have lost communications with all of these site owners after their arrest who we would share information as to who they thought might be needing help to leave the industry, or escape a pimp. We never reported any of this to law enforcement either.
What's the difference between members of Sex Workers Anonymous and that of active sex workers?
Not a damn thing.
Anyone in this business knows most of us swear we're "quitting for life" only to return a year, two years, three years, or even 20 years down the road. Once we're in that business - we're branded for life. A judge recently was found dead in Henderson and what did the news say? "Stripper who became Judge found dead". http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/nevada-judge-found-dead-tributes-stripper-article-1.2565800 It follows us even in death. In Alcoholics Anonymous they call it "turning from a cucumber into a pickle". Once you become a "pickle" you can't go back. Spouses, lovers, landlords, employers - ALL contain people who view an ex-sex worker as no different than an active sex worker.
For all I know - I even could go back into the sex industry. I could go and manage a strip club or a massage parlor. I could go write a script for a porn. I could go open up a webcam studio. So what's the difference between me and anyone else in the sex industry? Really nothing other than I "have the desire not to return to sex work". That's it.
I carry the same stigmas, the same scars, the same problems and issues as anyone else who is right now this minute turning a trick, making a porn, talking some guy off on the phone. Any REAL sex worker knows this.
Ones on our side anyway.
When I started finding myself, and Sex Workers Anonymous, as a group, under attack in 2015 by women like Maxine Doogan, Domina Elle, Meg Munoz, and other women connected to SWOP - I had turned to the owners of the Tits and Sass blog asking them "what's going on?"
For the first time - I heard silence.
Then I found this -
I've made comments, contributed articles, and had whole conversations with people since 2007 when this blog first opened. My name, Sex Workers Anonymous' name, and other members of SWA who have posted which I won't list here - every single shred of information has been removed from this site about us. They don't like us? Fine. They want to warn people to stay away from us? Fine. But why not that? They certainly did about Melissa Farley. Why has every single mention of our name, and comments I've made, all been completely wiped clean?
Now let me ask you - if you turn around and become like me, you decide to leave the sex industry, and you join our program or not, but you also become an "ex-sex worker" - what does our removal of our posts mean? The Amish call it "shunning".
Melissa Farley asked me to say "all prostitution was rape". I told her "no" that some of sex work is a business like any other business. A business within which some people are forced into that business for one as in trafficking victims. Some of the customers are harmed by disreputable unethical providers such as johns who get "rolled" or catch a disease. So our business is like the tobacco industry or alcohol. We have some customers who are harmed by the products. Some people are forced to produce the products. There are some laws against the products like how anyone under 18 can't smoke or under 21 can't drink.
So let me ask you - if this blog was a blog about anorexia, and if all reference to programs like Overeaters Anonymous, or treatment centers was removed, then it no longer is a blog about anorexia - but what instead? A site to promote anorexica where anyone who doesn't share in the behavior is then excluded.
Now does this mean the site is truly about free expression from ALL anorexics on the subject - or has it become instead about the promotion of the behavior only? What does it then tell it's readers will happen to them if they stop the behavior? They'll be shunned meaning the site is then PUSHING anorexia on those who will then start thinking "gee if I quit sticking my finger down my throat then I'm going to be shunned also so I got to think twice about this".
That is no longer a blog by anorexics about anorexia to share views on the subject - but instead it becomes propaganda and control. Because if they're selling you something - then what is it they're trying to get you to buy? So again is this about the sharing of information and views - or about creating a system of control?
You tell me. Because I've never ever made one post on their site trying to convince anyone to quit the sex industry. All I've ever posted is information on what's going on with us on this end of the world - like what was happening with Melissa Farley at that press conference.
Which I could show you if not that all those warnings were removed.
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